I've come to the conclusion that hunting for an internship (or a job) is kind of like dating. So much so that love songs (and break-up songs) explain as much about the job search as they do how you feel when you are with and without a significant other... Over the next couple of posts, I'm going to delve into my own job-relationship search and its parallelism to my single life.
"The good times are killing me" - Modest MouseIn essence, you have been in a long-term relationship that isn't gonna make it. You've been committed for a little while, but your eye is wandering a bit. The joy that you've had isn't enough to be sustainable and "the talk" showed that you just do not need each other as much as you thought. Enter, Grad School... single, sexy, and exciting. A new city, interesting people, activities and plans to make you forget about what you left behind. Now, though, you are a free woman (or man) and you are ready to find something new and exciting to be with. Yes, you are having a lot of fun, but you harbor a little bit of jealousy towards those that are in those committed relationships and know that you need to find something new.
"I am human and I need to be loved. Just like everybody does" - The SmithsYou can't stay single forever but it is a lot harder to get back in the game than you remembered. You see all the people around you--the flirters, the crushes, and serial monogamists--and you wonder why you are still single. You have a great past, you are fun to talk to, and you have a lot going on... why hasn't someone snatched you up?
Sometimes your need for love means thinking about crawling back and asking for a little bit of forgiveness. I reached a point earlier this year when I was ready to return to my old relationship -- my job at backcountry. The company was pretty good to me, they treated me right and we had a fun relationship. Though there were ups and downs and I didn't always feel totally appreciated, it was definitely comfortable and safe. However, you know that it isn't right! There were valid reasons for parting ways, and no matter how many times you think it might have been "the one," its not going to be any better, and you will just want to leave again. During the internship/job search, you sometimes forget how much you appreciate comfort and safety, but all you really need is a little crush to take your mind off of it...